Top Ten Strategies that ADDers Need to Know
ADHD Education
ADHDers have a tendency to bite off more than they can chew and in the process overwhelm themselves with too many promises they can't deliver.
There is a charge neutral way of saying NO that will not offend anyone. If you do decide to say yes to something that interests or motivates you, then UNDER-PROMISE and OVER-DELIVER.
It will immediately alleviate any pressure you feel. You'll be more productive and you will surpass everyone's expectations.
- Develop your true nature and personality.
Not what you think others want you to be. - Never worry by yourself.
Talk to someone, a designated person, friend or relative about what is bothering you or else you'll ruminate or obsess over the issue. - Develop strategies for dealing with anger.
Take a jog or vigorous run, play a competitive sport in an organized league, Yoga, breathing techniques, karate. Get a punching bag or anything that relieves the negative feelings stimulated by adrenaline. - Don't talk excessively.
If you are going to communicate, organize your thoughts, write them down in bullet form and then practice, practice, practice!!! - Show compassion for yourself instead of blaming yourself for everything that goes wrong.
Remember the Optimal Functioning Associate Coach program slogan: "If The Shoe Doesn't Fit, Don't Blame The Foot." - Get things done vs. doing things right.
Stop procrastinating about starting or completing a task because you can't do it perfectly. Black and white thinking will paralyze progress. Create ACTION and JUST DO IT! You'll feel great and you'll learn by getting things done. - Be an active listener.
Focus on a single aspect of what the person is saying. What is the person missing?, persons strengths, emotions, mood? etc. Also, learn to be a neutral listener, and listen without making any judgments. - Heap sincere PRAISE on those people you feel deserve it.
One enthusiastic statement of praise is a gift that stays indelibly ingrained in the memory of those individuals who rarely receive any positive feedback. - Find a cause or create a mission that reflects your true values or nature and focus that high ADD energy towards achieving it.
- Learn to say NO.
